This is how I healed from persistent anger

Have you ever had moments when something triggered strong emotions like anger or sadness, and it was tough to shake them?

Not long ago, I became really upset about something someone said to me.

She claimed, 'You can't do this or that. You're terrible at these things.' The truth is, I already knew I couldn't do those things, and I never pretended otherwise, which fueled my anger even more. I remained angry for about a week.

Then, I joined a breathwork session, and, of course, I carried my anger throughout the entire session.

I shared my feelings with the instructor, telling him I stayed angry the entire time. He said, 'Something inside of you is making you angry, not external factors. Proof of this is that even though we hear the same thing, some people don't get angry at all.'

That's so true. When someone gets angry, I don't feel angry at all, and I don't understand why they're so upset.

Journal this

The instructor suggested jotting down two things:

1. When was the last time I was angry?

2. When do I feel angry?

So, I grabbed a notebook and wrote.

1. The last time I was angry was when my web marketing teacher gave me an unfairly low evaluation.
   

2. I feel angry when someone criticizes my efforts to improve a situation and when someone doesn't appreciate what I did.

My source of approval

Then I realized I get triggered because the approval that 'I am doing well' doesn't come from within me. I was seeking validation outside.

I remember someone saying, 'When we seek validation from outside sources, it never satisfies us.'

My approval should come from myself, not from outside. As long as I know my values, no matter what others say, it doesn't matter. I don't have to get triggered by what someone said to me.

I might still get triggered by various negative emotions along the way. But when I understand the meaning behind those emotions, it becomes a valuable experience. This is my healing journey.

One of life's amazing moments is when we discover something we didn't know before.

Use this process to heal any negative emotions.

Journal:

1. When was the last time you felt this emotion (anger, sadness, jealousy, etc)?

2. When do you feel this feeling?
   

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